The winds of political focus on gay debate have now shifted to hostile territory – with the politicians and lobby groups joining the fry. It is important to examine in greater details what
this debate means for Kenyans. Every country has its own internal
social-economic-and-political dynamics, and attempting to follow the Ugandan or
Nigerian examples would be foolish. We
are in the 21st Century, and the current toxic debate on gays has
negative outcomes not just for gays, but also:
- Their family members
- Kenya’s Economy
- Religious Interests
Let us discuss each separately:
I am
writing this hoping family members, policy makers and religious leaders will
read. Help me to reach them by forwarding at least the relevant sections.
Families
of gay and lesbian members
Families with gay and lesbian members, often
experience social stigma, on account of having a member who is gay or lesbian.
Since stigmatization is not a good feeling, many families choose to distance
themselves from their gay relative, to lessen the pain. Moreover having been
brought up in the same social context as everyone else, they are often in a
curious situation of having to be in a close family relationship with someone
they would ordinarily stigmatize. But the fact is; people who want to
stigmatize will do so regardless of the internal distance the family members may
create between themselves.
In some cases the gay or lesbian members,
anticipating rejection, choose to distance themselves from other members of the
family. By doing this they often hope to reduce family friction, and
uncomfortable discussions about sexuality. Besides these family dynamics, there
are other less obvious effects of social stigma – including negative policies
and laws. These include:
- Negating
strong family bonds – Families rely on each other
for support particularly during times of adversity. These adversities could be
chronic illnesses, mitigating financial and economic challenges and even taking
advantage of development opportunities such as educational or economic
advancement. This form of CAPITAL within families and communities is called
social capital. Studies in Kenya have shown, most businesses start from loans
advanced by family members. Distancing any family member; especially one who is
likely to have some disposable income, negates the formation of strong family
bonds and opportunities for consolidating social capital.
- Stigma
and Blackmail – The situation Criminalization and
lack of protective laws is a cash cow for blackmailers. In some cases some gay and lesbian people
dedicate a significant part of their monthly income to paying off blackmailers
on routine basis. This diverts resources from the family. So when blackmailers
and extortionists rob from the gay and lesbian people, they are in effect
robbing the entire family.
- Health
and Well-being: There is quite a huge amount of
literature now that demonstrates how this oppressive environment affects gay
and lesbian people’s health and well-being. For the family members that should
be enough to move into action in support of their gay or lesbian relative. But
because, it is the family members who in most occasions HAVE to take care of
their ill members – (including the associated financial and human costs), their
interest in the policy environment affecting their gay and lesbian members, cannot
be passive. It should be proactive and preventative. The whole family should be
interested in preventing conditions that will cause ill health and reduced
wellbeing.
- Increasing
Family Opportunities: Oppressive laws and policies
are a major disincentive for entrepreneurship and wealth creation. In our
context where unemployment among skilled and unskilled labour is reduced
through absorption into family businesses, this disincentive has far reaching
consequences. [Personally I would like to
create a business and hire some within my own family, who are unemployed, but I
can only withstand the current blackmail and extortion as it is].
- Social
Protection, especially in old age: Family members
may not like that their gay or lesbian brothers are not building their own social
protection by starting their own families and having children. They know
however, that they are unlikely to abandon their gay relatives once they age –
such would bring shame to the entire family. That is why it becomes necessary
to support their gay and lesbian brothers as they form alternative social capital
- that is grounded on protective laws.
What
of the broader [Kenyan] Society
People, who do not have gay family members,
tend to be ambivalent on this issue, but they should not be. Here is why;
- International
positioning: Kenya is home to many international
organizations such as the UN offices of UNHABITAT and UNEP. It is also home to
many international non-governmental organizations working in the region. Kenya’s hosting of the UN offices has
numerous tangible (financial) and non-tangible (positional & perceptual)
benefits. Yet the presence of these offices in Nairobi is contested. The surest
way of losing these offices is going the Uganda & Nigeria way. How can the
UN for example guarantee that its internationally sourced staff members will
not suffer the effects of criminalization, blackmail and extortion, including
possibility of violence?
- Regional
Positioning: Hosting regional offices of many NGOs supports
enables the country to leverage Foreign Exchange rate stabilization – even when
actual spending of the dollars happens in the neighbouring countries. Moreover
the resident staffs spend and save a considerable amount of their incomes in
the country, which transfers wealth to our people. Now the reason Kenya is a
destination of choice is largely because of “psychological nearness.” Kenya has
been perceived as a cosmopolitan country – at least Nairobi is. We need to build on this positioning rather
than threaten in with village inspired mentality.
- Tourism – The Kenya Tourism Board complains of being poorly funded. Now
they have will have one additional challenge – of a negative image to deal
with. South Africa must be looking with glee as their marketing campaign just
got easier….South Africa Marketing slogan. It is not the big 5 & wildlife –
Tanzania has better offering, many African countries including South Africa
have them.
- Cost
of Health Care: Criminalization and lack of
protective laws & policies worsens the health outcomes of the gay and
lesbian Kenyans. It also adds to the burden of disease in the country.
Moreover, as we have demonstrated in previous postings, there are externalities
associated with one individual falling sick, in the society. This situation is made worse if we are
dealing with infectious such as HIV. As a resource-limited/poor country, should
the real brainy thing to do, not be reducing the disease burden and factors
that escalate the cost of health care?
- Deepening
our democratic gains: Every farmer will tell you
that the way to protect one’s land from encroachment is by protecting every
marginal inch. The last inch of the land may not be that important, in fact, by
itself, it may not add much to the bottom line, but they know if they lose it,
they will have started the process of further encroachment. A similar argument
holds for human rights. The way to protect and deepen the democratic gains we
have made as a country is by jealously protecting the rights of those at the
margin of society – those whose rights are most likely to be abused. Building a
case for protection of the rights and freedoms to privacy, association,
expression etc. for gays, makes it infinitely easier to make a case for mainstream
society. In fact, brainy social activists may want to focus on marginal
societies because in so doing they mainstream the universality of human rights.
What
of the Religious interests?
I have spoken to a number of high-ranking
religious leaders, such as the late Arch-bishop David Gitari, Bishop Chai of
Mombasa, Sheikh Hussein Ali, and Sheikh Juma Ngao among others. From one-to-one
conversations, these leaders sound ardent in their search of a lasting solution
on religious aspirations and reality of gay and lesbian members. Unfortunately
their public pronouncements are not always so conciliatory. Their public pronouncements are often
perceived as pushing for these oppressive laws and policies. Unfortunately this
public positioning of religion, fails in its track in the following ways:
- Message is perceived to be vengeful & hateful:
In private conversations, Sheikh Ngao, Bishop Chai and others may say the
prophets and even Jesus did not come for the saints but sinners. And that they
would like to attract them to their Mosques & Churches, yet tone and
content of their message is anything but inviting. Of course, one understands
the fear they have of “normalizing homosexuality” or making it appear as
“socially acceptable.” But this is a trade-off they have to deal with – either
they take a bitter and hostile positioning – which emphasize the seriousness of
the sin of homosexuality and in the process chase away the homosexuals from
them, or they take a compassionate and inviting approach – which makes their
message less threatening and appealing. Sadly for them, they cannot have it
both ways.
- Crime
by Association: Many religious people may not
support the endemic violence against gay and lesbian people, yet they do not
condemn it as much as they condemn gay people. Moreover, many people who
perpetrate violence against gay people use religiously-inspired arguments often
the same talking points used by religious leaders. Indeed in many occasions, it
can be quite difficult to separate the hostile voices emanating from religious
leaders and those advanced by violent homophobes. Over time religion is
increasingly becoming a mouth piece for these homophobes and if the trend is
not checked, a merger (hostile or friendly) seems to be in the offing.
- Pain
to family and Friends: Religious leaders may be
oblivious to this simple fact – many family members actually do love their gay
and lesbian relatives. As a result, when they are hurt by religious emanating
or inspired hostile voices and actions, the family members hurt just as much as
their gay and lesbian relatives. Over time this creates resentment and
indifference. Religious leaders may be of the view that theirs is the “straight
and narrow” but how they deliver this message has effect on the parents,
brothers, sisters and other relatives. Like the drop of rain, it cannot fall on
the ground and have no effect; if its clean water, it waters the ground and
vegetation grows but if it is acidic, it scotches the earth.
- Moral
Benchmarking: Religious leaders must understand,
that when they emphasize on this issue, relative to other social issues, which
may be more urgent, and their impact far reaching, they are creating a moral
benchmark. They too are human beings, and they have failings, some of which
have only been too recent – pastor in a bar and the other dies in a woman’s
house. That the issue of homosexuality
is more morally serious is increasingly flying in the face – soon or latter whatever
little credibility they have left, will evaporate and dry up, never to be seen
again.
- Signs if the times: Society is changing and
the church must learn how to engage with the people in these new times. I guess
the best ever lesson to be learnt about this is the document by the Catholic Church
in 1965 – Gaudium et Spes. While it’s a document of its own time, and some of
the issues discussed are now dated, it was as the document states and attempt
for the church to scrutinize “the signs of the times and of interpreting them in the light of the Gospel.” Taking a fundamentally moralistic and calling
on the state to use its coercive power to enforce that moral posturing, is
most unfortunate.